Let’s be honest: the idea of traveling solo as a mom of a child with a disability is loaded. On one hand, there’s the freedom—the thought of time for just you. On the other, there’s guilt. The non-stop kind. The kind that keeps whispering, You should stay home.
But here’s the dirty little truth: you need this. Solo travel isn’t a luxury. It’s how you keep yourself afloat in a life that demands so much of you.
My Story
I get it. I’ve been there. I AM there. I’m a mom of two, and my oldest daughter has severe developmental disabilities and epilepsy. Traveling isn’t in her cards, and for a long time, I thought that meant it wasn’t in mine either.
But something had to give. Between caregiving and my event industry job, life felt like an endless cycle of doing and sadness around not getting to travel, see the world. So, we found a way. Sometimes it means splitting up—me with my husband and younger daughter while ensuring my oldest is cared for. Other times, it’s just me.
In 2019, I took my first true solo trip (outside of work): three days in Paris. No plans, no itinerary. I walked wherever my heart led me. Down a cobblestone alley, into a tucked-away bookshop, or to a café where I lingered over a latte. Every decision was mine. It was magical.
Letting Go of Guilt: The Hardest Part
Here’s the thing about guilt: it’s a liar. It tells you that by stepping away, you’re abandoning your family. The truth? You’re setting an example. You’re teaching your kids—disabled or not—that self-care is essential.
Does guilt still creep in? Of course. But I promise you this: the moment you feel the breeze of a new city on your face, the weight will start to lift.
How to Make It Happen (Without Losing Your Mind)
- Plan for Peace of Mind: Create a care plan that covers your child’s every need—daily routines, medical instructions, and emergency contacts. Knowing they’re in good hands makes it easier to enjoy your trip.
- Choose Your Happy Place: Pick a destination where you’ll feel inspired, safe, and comfortable.
- Stay Present: When you get there, give yourself permission to be. Journal, sit in silence, explore without a plan. Don’t rush it—this time is yours.
What Happens When You Come Back
Something magical happens when you return from a solo adventure: you don’t just step back into your life—you bring a better version of yourself with you. Your patience grows. Your energy shifts. You remember that you’re more than a caregiver—you’re a person with dreams, too.
Final Thoughts: You Deserve This
Taking time for yourself doesn’t mean you love your family any less. It means you love them enough to take care of yourself, too.
So, mom to mom, I’m telling you—do it! Book the ticket. Pack the bag. Step into the world that’s waiting for you. You’ll come back stronger, happier, and more you. Not only is that the mom that your family deserve, but it’s the woman that you deserve to be.